The Q&A’s revelation: that the adverb “agentically” exists: Q:A lot of these ads, which are, after all, written by ostensibly straight men seeking out homosexual contact, are couched in this hyperhetero language. A: Yeah, and a lot of people read those and they say, “Oh, come on. I think these are really gay men who… More Straight men and gay sex
Here’s a test: when was this passage written? People used to meet their partners through proximity, through family and friends, but now Internet meeting is surpassing every other form. “It’s changing so much about the way we act both romantically and sexually,” Garcia says. “It is unprecedented from an evolutionary standpoint.” As soon as people… More Dating and punishment U.SA.
I’ve written about this scenario: hooking up with a guy whom I thought was gay because he had more experience but was just a guy with same sex experience and, as a result, married and lives happily ever after. Mason Hsieh grapples with the age-old question: is a man who hooks up with another man… More ‘Everyone is straight until proven guilty’
Ignoring “gay-sounding” voices on dating/sex profiles happens often. I read these profiles every day. The binary: gay-sounding vs straight-acting. The former doesn’t sound like the latter. Acquiring credit in the straight world adds to your desirability; “passing off,” according to gay men who hold these noxious views, means not being “limited” by one’s sexuality. For… More The stigma of sounding gay
I have read a couple of dissenting reviews of Kate Bolick’s Spinster, but Briallen Hopper’s is the liveliest and most allusive. The crux of her counterargument: although Bolick is correct to reclaim spinsterhood as a desirable state, the assumptions on which this state rests still get defined by men. “Whom to marry, and when will… More Reclaiming spinsterhood and bachelorhood
Years & Years – Communion From their photographs they could be a boy band. But notice the ripples on the surface (as I’ve spotted with every boy band I’ve heard). This British trio plays keyboards. Frontman Olly Alexander is an out gay man, although this fact is not appreciably noticeable until “Real,” about how painful… More Years & Years and Alan Jackson
The column I’ve been waiting for. Rebecca Traister: But the other thing that’s so revolutionary about fighting for marriage to be about love and companionship – and not about a strictly gendered economic or social power construct – is that it acknowledges human connections that are also available to millions of people outside of marriage… More Options available!
To the friends who’ve married in the extraordinary last couple of years, I congratulate your freedom to move to any state in the country; its government must acknowledge your marriage. I don’t march in parades or change Facebook photos because I’m a prig. A good friend yesterday lamented the subtext of Anthony Kennedy’s decision —… More Moving on
When the delicate and estimable Dick Armey ruled the Congress in the late nineties, he once called a colleague “Barney Fag.” The representative from the Fourth District of Massachusetts didn’t hesitate: “There are a lot of ways to mispronounce my name. That is the least common…I checked with my mother. In fifty years no one’s… More Frankly vulgar: Barney Frank
The first speaker of the House who wasn’t a name on the 6:30 news was Tom Foley. During State of the Union addresses I wasn’t sure whether he or George H.W. Bush looked more bored. I remember the homo rumors floated. As Dennis Hastert’s past become more clear, Digby posts a Foley-related story that shows… More What oppo research looks like
I’m surprised it took Gawker so long to unearth Tom Hardy’s remarks seven years ago, in which he admitted to boyhood homosexual experiences. His 2011 comments, the site notes, were not so enlightened: the usual repudiation of any hint of fucking or getting fucked in the ass. Whether he thinks the 2008 comments are mistake… More Bisexuality: indispensable frivolity
Sixty-two percent of voters who participated in the Irish referendum voted for a gay marriage amendment to the country’s constitution. I wish people would drop the facile analogies. Our federal system means ensures fifty state governments must have their say. But we’re almost there. Grass roots efforts must never relax; they’re what broke the Catholic… More ‘The culmination of a 10-year campaign to change attitudes in this country’