There’s truth to what Dan Savage says here. In Miami, despite its tolerance, you don’t want the reaction of a young woman of Hispanic descent to an admission that her boyfriend, to quote Suede’s Brett Anderson, tried it that way:
“Straight guys run the world, but that includes the Taco Bell franchise. They’re less free sexually than anybody else. The girl who eats pussy once or twice in college can tell her husband, and he’s not going to believe she’s a lesbian, and she is not going to be terrorized by that experience. But these poor straight guys, who meet the one guy who blips onto their sex radar, and they’re devastated! They think no matter how much sex they’ve had with women, this is proof . . . because straight male sexuality is two negatives bundled together: it’s to not be a woman and to not be a fag. So anything a straight guy might be interested in that is perceived as feminine or faggy is really destabilizing to their selves.“After reading their letters for a couple years, I realized gay men and women were complicit in this too. If you’ve had sex once with a man, they say you’re gay. Gay men want you to be gay—if you look like Tom Cruise. There is not a lot of speculation whether Seth Rogen is gay. I fucked women. Nobody ever says to me, ‘Oh, you couldn’t have done that if you weren’t actually straight.”
